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In the American media, Russian mail-order brides are often portrayed either as docile victims or as gold diggers in search of cash and green cards. Rarely are they permitted to speak for themselves. Until now. In Dreaming of a Mail-Order Husband, six Russian women who are in search of or have already found U.S. husbands thru listings on the Internet tell their stories. Ericka Johnson, an American researcher of gender and technology, interviewed these women and others. The women, in their twenties and thirties, describe how they placed listings on the Internet and what they think regarding their contacts with Western men. They talk about their expected values when it comes to marriage in the United States and their reasons for wishing to emigrate. Their differing backgrounds, economic situations, and instructional levels belie homogeneous characterizations of Russian mail-order brides.

Each chapter presents one woman’s story and then links it to a discussion of gender roles, the mail-order bride industry, and the severe economic and social constraints of life in Russia. The transitional economy has ofttimes left people, after a month’s work, either unpaid or salaried unexpectedly with a supply of sunflower oil or toilet paper. Women over twenty-three are considered almost unmarriageable in Russian society. Russia has a big population of women who are single, divorced, or widowed, who would like to be married yet feel that they have no chance finding a Russian husband. Grim realities such as these motivate women to seek better lives abroad. For a lot of of those seeking a mail-order husband, children or parents play significant roles in the search for better lives, and they play a role in Johnson’s account as well. In addition to her exploration in the former Soviet Union, Johnson conducted consultations in the United States, and she shares the insights—about dating, marriage, and cross-cultural communication—of a Russian-American married couple who met thru the Internet.

Review

Dreaming of a Mail-Order Husband provides a rich and well-researched account of Russian brides, who, because of the lackluster economic conditions in Russia, hope for a better marriage and life by marrying foreign, for the most part U. S., men.”—Felicity Schaeffer-Grabiel, University of California, Santa Cruz

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19 of 22 persons found the following review helpful.
5I loved this book!
By Gulchin Gulmamadova-Klaits
I read this book in two days. I loved it!

5 of 7 persons found the following review helpful.
5While not perfect, if you are giving careful consideration to meeting an Eastern European woman online you ought to read this book.
By Bernie L. Malonson
If you look online, you will find more and more dating web sites featuring Russian and Eastern European women. The internet sites will tell you that there are thousands of classy, sophisticated, educated, finelooking women waiting to be found and for only a few dollars a letter, she may be yours.

Well as with most thing in life, the truth and the merchandising are not the same.

The original thing you need to understand when reading Ms. Johnson’s book is that she is an academic and the book appears to be written if not for an academic audience, then at least so as to be likeable to them.

This may be distracting, as here analysis many times interrupts the flow of the stories like 21 year old Olga whose mother is pushing for her to find a foreigner, enterpriser Vera who helps women take glamour photos and write the key phrases in their letter that will attract alien men, or couple Anastasia and John.

The oddest story for me was that of Robert, whose mother pretends to be him and picks a wife for him online. When he goes to meet her he proposes right away in the airport and she accepts. Great stuff for the movies a little odd in real life.

You may get beyond the hype and realize that these are real people with hopes, dreams and fears caught up in challenging situations and their reasons and desires for escaping them vary from woman to woman.

A quick read and well worthwhile.

Cheers!

4 of 12 humans found the following review helpful.
2Dreaming of Mail-Order Husband
By J. Foster
The stories written are said to be from real girls, but as with most of the books written on this, the author still gives her own biased opinion, using the experiences of others.
Yes, it is okay, but these persons writing these stories are so twisted in their own realities. Those of us that take the risk, spend the money, attempting to find happiness, end up being the fodder for the Elite class to sit around their lunch or dinner tables and rain scorn upon the middle-class or the peasants.
The feudal system has returned to America. Congradulations to Erika and those she tries to impress at the country club. I hope their views may someday come from within themselves.

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